The silence of women’s voices
Why the Silence of Women’s voices Means They Aren’t Heard
The silence of women’s voices is not accidental. For generations, women have been expected to speak with a soft, gentle tone – always calm and collected. But this very expectation makes it easier to dismiss or ignore them, until their words are only heard when raised in pain or anger.
Society has been trained to treat women’s quiet words as background noise, only reacting when her voice cracks under frustration.
And it’s only then, when she finally shouts or curses, that she suddenly becomes “visible.” But not to be heard – to be condemned. In that moment, she is labeled rude, harsh, problematic, and dramatic.
And here lies an even deeper problem: in our cultures, a woman’s word rarely carries weight until it is confirmed through a man’s voice. In the Balkans this is especially true – men are taught to look to another man as the authority, to believe his version of events, to seek validation in his nod of approval. A woman’s experience, her pain, even her truth, is pushed into second or third place.
It’s no wonder, then, that many women stay silent – because they know their words will be questioned, picked apart, and diminished until repeated by a man. And maybe that’s exactly why the Balkans remain a place where women’s suffering is not taken seriously: because people are collectively trained to believe that truth is whatever a man speaks, not what a woman lives.
Tisina zenskih glasova
Zasto tisina zenskih glasova znaci da se ne cuju
Tisina zenskih glasova nije slucajna. Generacijama se od zene ocekivalo da govore tihim, blagim tonom – uvjek mirne i sabrane. Upravo to ocekivanje cini njihove rijeci laksim za ignorisati, sve dok ih ne podignu u bolu ili ljutnji.
Drustvo je naviklo da zenske tihe rijeci tretira kao pozadinsku buku, a reaguje tek kada njen glas pukne pod frustracijom.
I tek tada, kada zena povisi ton, kada je bol ili gorcina natjeraju da povice ili opsuje, ona postaje “vidljiva”. Ali ne da bi bila saslusana – vec da bi bila osudjena. U tom trenutku postaje bezobrazna, surova, problematicna i dramaticna.
I tu se otvara jos dublji problem: u nasim kulturama rijec zene rijetko ima tezinu dok je ne potvrdi muski glas. Na Balkanu je to posebno izrazeno – muskarci su uceni da gledaju prema drugom muskarcu kao autoritetu, da vjeruju njegovoj verziji price, da traze potvrdu u njegovom klimanju glavom. Zensko iskustvo, zenska bol, cak i zenska istina, padaju tek na drugo ili trece mjesto.
Nije cudno onda sto mnoge zene ostanu tihe – jer znaju da ce njihove rijeci biti preispitivane, vagane i umanjene sve dok ih ne ponovi muski jezik. I mozda je upravo to razlog zasto Balkan ostaje mjesto gdje se zenska patnja ne shvata ozbiljno: jer je kolektivno nauceno da je istina ono sto izgovori muskarac, a ne ono sto dozivi zena.
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